Confronting people is hard. If I confronted every bit of racism I encountered in my life I would be exhausted and not have any friends. Nobody wants to be friends with somebody who is always pointing out where they could do better. But sometimes you have to, and when somebody confronts you that means that they trust you, they value your friendship enough to make the effort and take the risk. I try to remember that when I am confronted, because I don’t like it anymore than anyone else does.
I have just found your Substack writing. Kia ora (hi!) from Aotearoa (also known as New Zealand). I love what you have reflected on and shared here. It gives me courage to challenge myself as well. Identity is something I have struggled with forever, as an adoptee and as a mixed-race person. I can’t wait to read the rest of your thoughts. Thank you so so much for this. Thank you.
I have just found your Substack writing. Kia ora (hi!) from Aotearoa (also known as New Zealand). I love what you have reflected on and shared here. It gives me courage to challenge myself as well. Identity is something I have struggled with forever, as an adoptee and as a mixed-race person. I can’t wait to read the rest of your thoughts. Thank you so so much for this. Thank you.