But you need community.
"Johns writes about it being drawn to our grief and pain and isn’t the distortion of thinking I am needed, or believing that I do everything for community, a kind of hunger that preys on those made vulnerable? And there is a parallel process of distortion when communities think that they need particular people, the reciprocal shaping that happens means that the community starts to look like the person we have come to need, who does everything for us. Our communities are not vulnerable, they are made vulnerable."
I am going to be thinking about this essay for a long time. Thank you.